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and I don’t know if I have that much time this time, Contactmusic quoted her as saying It was pushing it the last time But if I don’t make itI’m sure I’ll be very sad” she added For all the latest Entertainment News download Indian Express App More Related NewsWritten by Amrita Sharma | New Delhi | Published: December 15 2015 6:08 pm Experts say that blame-games not only yields nothing it also makes both partners turn resentful (Source: Thinkstock Images) Related News One of the most common mistakes partners make is blaming one another when things go wrong And there is nothing more disastrous for the relationship than pointing fingers at the other when something untoward happens and to turn around and say – “I told you so but you wouldn’t listen” Take the case of Nandini and Aditya They had been living in the US for almost seven years when they felt that their kids would do better growing up in India than in the US where they would always face an identity crisis And so when the two of them came back to India it was a mutual decision Or so each of them thought But when the homecoming did not turn out to be as smooth as expected and they found themselves battling a slew of problems They started taking it out on each other by blaming one another for the decision to come back Experts say that such blame-game not only yields nothing it also makes both partners turn resentful As a result the problem intensifies with each holding the other responsible rather than accepting their fault and looking for solutions This is exactly what happened The finger-pointing not only aggravated the issue but cemented it since there is also lot of hurt involved —————————————————- Read other Two to Tango columns here —————————————————- “I felt miserable that she kept making it seem that it was my decision and that I had put pressure on her to come back to India We had both spoken about it and if she disagreed she should have said it then and there rather than making it seem she came due to pressure from me” says Aditya Counsellors say that couples should ensure that they are on the same page when it comes to major decisions concerning both And once reached there should be clarity about the consensus on the course of action so that there is no scope to fix the blame and erode the very foundation of the relationship This is what happened with Soumya and Neeraj whose marriage almost collapsed because they resorted to fixing blame for their tragedy than supporting each other “Our child was admitted to the hospital and the doctor said that she was fine and we could take her home if we liked but it would be better if they kept her there for one more day Since my brother was leaving for the UK that night I thought we could take our daughter home since she was better now Neeraj and I spoke about it and decided that we could take her home” Soumya said But when the baby died on the way home they were shocked and devastated But what was worse than the loss was the fact that each was holding the other responsible for the decision that proved to be so wrong “I couldn’t bear his insinuations that it was because of me and my insistence that we lost our daughter It broke me completely because the last thing I needed was to defend myself when the loss was equally traumatic for me” she says Experts say when it comes to putting the blame one almost always find it easier and convenient to make the other the scapegoat But the problem is that you lose either way — whether you fix the blame or accept things and try and fix it That is why counsellors suggest that in a close and intimate relationship it is important not to get defensive when the blame-game is on It is equally important to understand why one feels the need to place the blame on the other and not accept that both partners were responsible for whatever happened Counsellors also warn that blame-game carries the risk of taking the fight to a much wider scale than necessary It may trigger off with blaming the other for a specific thing but may spiral into a wider general issue making it a power-keg ready to explode the relationship to bits Therefore experts advise that it’s important not to get drawn into the vortex of pointing fingers at the partner but to try and keep things in perspective so as to not jeopardise the relationship Remember that once the ball of blame starts rolling there’s no stopping it It’s best to behave like adults and talk things out once both o you have calmed down and are better placed to understand each other’s hurt and point of view For all the latest Lifestyle News download Indian Express App IE Online Media Services Pvt Ltd More Related NewsThe “wisdom of crowds” has become a mantra of the Internet age Need to choose a new vacuum cleaner Check out the reviews on Amazon Is that restaurant any good See what Yelp has to say But a new study suggests that such online scores don’t always reveal the best choice A massive controlled experiment of Web users finds that such ratings are highly susceptible to irrational “herd behavior”—and that the herd can be manipulated Sometimes the crowd really is wiser than you The classic examples are guessing the weight of a bull or the number of gumballs in a jar Your guess is probably going to be far from the mark whereas the average of many people’s choices is remarkably close to the true number But what happens when the goal is to judge something less tangible such as the quality or worth of a product According to one theory the wisdom of the crowd still holds—measuring the aggregate of people’s opinions produces a stable reliable value Skeptics however argue that people’s opinions are easily swayed by those of others So nudging a crowd early on by presenting contrary opinions—for example exposing them to some very good or very bad attitudes—will steer the crowd in a different direction To test which hypothesis is true you would need to manipulate huge numbers of people exposing them to false information and determining how it affects their opinions A team led by Sinan Aral a network scientist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in Cambridge did exactly that Aral has been secretly working with a popular website that aggregates news stories (He says it is similar to reddit but he’s keeping the identity confidential because he has another experiment under way with the same site and doesn’t want it to be “tainted” by media exposure) The website allows users to make comments about news stories and vote each other’s comments up or down The vote tallies are visible as a number next to each comment and the position of the comments is chronological (Stories on the site get an average of about 10 comments and about three votes per comment) It’s a follow-up to his experiment using people’s ratings of movies to measure how much individual people influence each other online (answer: a lot) This time he wanted to know how much the crowd influences the individual and whether it can be controlled from outside For 5 months every comment submitted by a user randomly received an "up" vote (positive); a "down" vote (negative); or as a control no vote at all The team then observed how users rated those comments The users generated more than 100000 comments that were viewed more than 10 million times and rated more than 300000 times by other users At least when it comes to comments on news sites the crowd is more herdlike than wise Comments that received fake positive votes from the researchers were 32% more likely to receive more positive votes compared with a control the team reports online today in Science And those comments were no more likely than the control to be down-voted by the next viewer to see them By the end of the study positively manipulated comments got an overall boost of about 25% However the same did not hold true for negative manipulation The ratings of comments that got a fake down vote were usually negated by an up vote by the next user to see them “Our experiment does not reveal the psychology behind people’s decisions” Aral says “but an intuitive explanation is that people are more skeptical of negative social influence They’re more willing to go along with positive opinions from other people” Duncan Watts a network scientist at Microsoft Research in New York City agrees with that conclusion “[But] one question is whether the positive [herding] bias is specific to this site” or true in general Watts says He points out that the category of the news items in the experiment had a strong effect on how much people could be manipulated “I would have thought that ‘business’ is pretty similar to ‘economics’ yet they find a much stronger effect (almost 50% stronger) for the former than the latter What explains this difference If we’re going to apply these findings in the real world we’ll need to know the answers” Will companies be able to boost their products by manipulating online ratings on a massive scale “That is easier said than 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